Serenity

One day, aoss told me that he found students in Computer Science don't used to stare the eyes of the guy he/she is talking to. After knowing this, I have begun to pay attention to this. I found he is right and I have a slight symptom.

It's a little shock for me to notice this bad habit. I am trying to focus my eyes on the other's eyes or the forehead, but it's a hard work. I don't know why I can't stare others' eye. Maybe we use computers too often and are lack of having face to face talks, or we used to do our work and talk to people simultaneously. Yes, I do have lots of talks to people, but in the most of these, we both sit in front of the monitor and talk. Therefore, our eyes focus on the screen naturally. We need a computer to demonstrate the things in our discussion.

When there is no computer and I have to talk to just one person, it becomes a test for me. If I concentrate on talk, my eye would focus on nothing, that is, I wouldn't know where I stare. On the other hand, keeping my eyes on the other's forehead disturbs my thinking. Therefore, I can't do the both things well at the same time. What worse is that concentrating on eyes makes me more tired than concentrating on thinking. It's not worth to waste my energy on eyes instead of thinking.

However, 蔡康永 said that the secret of his successful interviews in 真情指數 is staring the guest's eyes. Stare him/her more than one hour and he/she would finally talks something he/she doesn't want to talk originally. This raises my will to practice staring the other's eyes. It could become a powerful weapon in the talk. I'm still trying.